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7 Steps on How to Save a Relationship and Love Your Partner Again By Patrick Cheesman

All relationships go through good and bad times. It today's world there are many pressures and these can affect your behaviour and how you interact with someone special.
Let's take a scenario. James works hard and for long hours. He is married to Sarah with two kids. James thinks that he is supporting the family by working so hard to bring in more money for their security. Sarah doesn't feel that he spends any time with her, that he neglects her. She spends all her time looking after the children to James thinks that she is not giving him attention as well.
Sounds familiar? It is very easy to get wrapped up in the day to day business of living and forgetting what is really important. This couple is close to breaking up because they are ignoring each other. Can this relationship be saved? Is it to late to save it? How can you start to save this relationship? Here are 7 steps on how to save a relationship.
The first thing you need to do is decide, do you want to really save the relationship? Not all relationships can be saved so you need to understand if this relationship is worth saving at all. A lot will depend upon how the relationship broke down in the first place. Both parties need to want to rescue the relationship.
Being in a relationship is convenient and comfortable. It's a scary thought to leave someone and of course many people will do anything they can to stay together for the sake of their children. Unfortunately though this can lead to more pain and suffering. Unless both parties are committed then there is no reason to continue.
If you are committed to rescuing the relationship then the next stage is to identify the root cause of the problems. When I say root, I mean the fundamental reason why things have gone bad. Sometimes the reasons why something is wrong are just the reflection of a much deeper reason. This is the one you need to deal with.
Let's say that one partner has an affair which of course is a very serious issue that would lead to a break up. However the affair is a symptom of a much deeper problem that exists. Affairs can happen when a couple lose their intimacy and one partner looks for it elsewhere. By not tackling this issue the problem will get worse.
Once you have understood the core problems then you can deal with them and have a much better chance of saving the relationship.
The next stage is to talk with your partner. By expressing yourself, showing your feelings and discussing the problems you will demonstrate your willingness to sort out the issues. Hug your partner, hold their hand, and be physically intimate to show that you are still attracted to them. This will be a highly emotional time when all the pain will come out, and you will have to be prepared for this. But by discussing all of the issues, clarifying and resolving them you will feel a huge weight off your shoulders.
Now that you have discussed the problems openly and have agreed on what you can do to solve them, you must agree a plan to get all this done. Take concrete steps as soon as possible to start the process. You need to generate momentum so the sooner you start the better. This will show your partner your commitment to rescuing your relationship and they will make efforts as well.
It is important to realise that this is an ongoing process. You can't solve these issues in one day; you have to demonstrate your commitment to the cause every day. Be flexible, kind and considerate to your partner. This will be a journey and a long one at that. But if you work at it and follow these ideas then you have a great chance to save your relationship.
Patrick Cheesman invites you to watch some free videos that will help you understand why your relationship has broken. By understanding why men and women separate he hopes that he can help you win that person back. Take a look at the website and watch the free videos, [http://www.brokenupwithyourex.com].


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